My approach to weight is very different from the traditional approach. When I work with clients, one of the hardest things for them to get their head around is the idea that they can choose to eat exactly what they want when they want to. I’ve talked about food choice in my blog about eating cake for breakfast.
But the thing is that you’re an adult and when you listen to the words you use around food, you might be surprised at how much you sound like a teenager or even a child.
I was having a conversation with another coach and she mentioned that she doesn’t eat biscuits. That’s ok, that’s her choice but when she was in a meeting recently where she was offered some, rather than accept her decision, the other women with her told her she was being ‘good’ by not eating them.
Her behaviour wasn’t good or bad, it simply was. She didn’t want them and so she didn’t take them. But I wonder how often you refer to your behaviour around food in these terms?
Do you say things like, ‘No, I won’t – I’m trying to be good’.
Or maybe, ‘I’ve been really naughty this week, I’ve eaten X and Y and Z’
Who’s making these rules? Who’s telling you you’re good or bad or naughty.
You’re an adult. You have the right and the power to choose to eat whatever you want, whenever you want it.
That’s not to say there aren’t consequences – but as an adult you weigh these up and you make decisions. And you are responsible for your actions.
How about those foods that are classed as naughty? Does it make you feel rebellious to eat them? Do you feel like you’re sticking your fingers up at the world when you’re indulging? Right there is your inner teenager (or toddler). Just seeing how much you can get away with.
When you’ve spent a large amount of your life dieting, it’s easy to think that you are not allowed to make decisions about your own eating habits. After all you’ve been told what you can and can’t eat by other people for such a long time. There are magazines and newspaper articles aplenty, ready to pontificate about what you should be eating and government initiatives to help you make food swaps – just in case you needed any more input into what you can and can’t eat.
Being an adult around food means taking the responsibility back and making decisions based on your ideas of what you should and can eat. It means ignoring the fad diets, the magazines (with their ‘should eats’ and ‘superfoods’) and work with what makes you feel good about yourself, both inside and out.
There’s growing evidence that we are all affected differently by food anyway, so something that makes you feel good inside may not necessarily make someone else feel good. You’re an individual and you can make your own decisions based on your own information.
If you’d like to know more about taking your power back and being the adult that you are around food then you’re gonna love my course Understanding Emotional Eating which you can grab here.