When you’re at that point where you think you’ve tried everything and you’re still unhappy with your weight, shape, size and relationship with food it can be tempting to hit the slimming clubs again. I mean, when you went last time you lost a few pounds and well, you know it works, as long as you stick to it, right?
Going back to the place where your relationship with food becomes skewed is the last place you need to go.
Let’s unpick a little.
Weight gain happens when you stop listening to the signals in your body and start eating food for the wrong reasons. When you start using it as a crutch to make yourself feel happy, less stressed or whatever.
Food is now the escape from whatever is making you unhappy and until you fix that thing, you’re just going to keep on using it.
I challenge you , right now, to think about the times you overeat or binge or simply eat when you’re not hungry.
Side note: many of my clients can’t tell when they’re hungry because they’ve got so used to overriding the hunger and satiety signals.
Just be curious about what sets off your eating behaviour and then think about the tussle that goes on in your head as you do.
You see, once you’ve dieted and had the rigid food plan forced upon you, even this skewed behaviour of covering your emotions, sets off a chain of even more emotions as you go through guilt and shame around not being able to resist certain foods when you’re emotionally triggered.
Dieting only serves to compound an already skewed and dysfunctional relationship with food that you already have .
If you recognise some of that behaviour then maybe it’s time to look at some other ways of addressing the dissatisfaction that you have with your body and / or your weight. Which, by now, is probably becoming another stressor in your life and compounding the cycle of feeling bad and eating.
Have a look at these questions and see how many you can answer ‘yes’ to
- I have tried lots of diets / the same diet more than once and I’m still not happy with my body
- I eat when I’m stressed / tired / unhappy / bored
- I am confused by conflicting advice about what foods to eat
- I often spend a lot of time deciding what to eat, alternating between what I want and what I think I ‘should’ eat
- I feel guilty about eating certain foods which can lead to a binge
- I have little or no ‘me-time’
- I am tired a lot of the time
All these are symptoms of a skewed relationship with food, your body or simply with yourself. In order to be happy with your body, it’s not about what food you eat but about regaining control over your relationships with food, body and soul. It’s about creating the right conditions for you to feel content and happy with yourself.
If this sounds familiar, then you might be interested in my course Understanding Emotional Eating. Why not pop over and check it out.