How many times have I heard the phrase ‘Fat is not a feeling’. Ugh! Drives me absolutely bonkers. I mean, apart from the fact that being able to touch and wobble your fat is most definitely a sensation (aka feeling) and if you can pinch more than an inch then you can definitely feel your fat, there are huge numbers of emotions (aka feelings) around your body size.
Women of all shapes and sizes around the world call themselves ‘fat’. And my threshold for thinking that I’m fat might not be the same as yours. In fact when I first started out in business, I used to be quite nervous about working with women who were slimmer than me. But I realised, the more women I worked with, that the ideas, sensations and emotions that are tied up with body confidence and size perception are not really number dependent. The women who needed my help had a perception of what fat was, regardless of their actual size or number on the scale.
Fat is tied up with self esteem. It’s tied up with our perceptions of our value in the world and also our beauty. The phrase ‘fat and ugly’ is used over and over again, as if they almost mean the same thing. Thinking that we are fat is almost akin to thinking that there’s something wrong with us. That we are wrong.
Fat is a synonym for tired, exhausted, unhappy, worthless, not good enough, bored, dissatisfied, ugly and lacking confidence. Fat is the word we use when we cannot think of why we are unhappy so we use the imperfect body as a scapegoat so that we don’t need to delve deeper and wonder what is really going on to make us feel so dissatisfied.
Fat has a simple solution. To combat fat, simply eat less and move more. What a simple solution, no need to look further.
But fat hides the deeper traumas going on in our lives. The feeling of being overworked and underappreciated. The mental tiredness that simply won’t go away, no matter how much sleep we get. That feeling of being pulled in too many directions all at once and having so many people dependent on us, when all we want is someone to tell us that everything is going to be ok. (It is, by the way. 😉 )
Fat hides the feeling of never being good enough, never being clever enough, never being beautiful enough or rich enough or simply just… enough.
So, when someone tells you that fat is not a feeling, they are wrong. Fat is every feeling that you’re not ready to acknowledge yet. Fat is every feeling that is too uncomfortable to deal with right now, without support. Fat is EVERY feeling.
If you work with me, I won’t tell you that fat is not a feeling. I’ll ask you which feelings. I’ll honour those feelings and support you through them. And if you’re not sure if you’re quite ready to work on the fat or the feelings you can grab a cuppa and spend half an hour with me finding out if you’re ready to change your life and feel less fat.
Click the pic below to grab your 30 minute masterclass and get started on transforming those fat feelings into a feeling of excitement, of being enough and of being fully supported as we start to change your feelings and your life!