Asking yourself what your top 3 priorities are can be a really powerful question. If you suffer at all from overwhelm, or are a typical working mum then you probably have a lot going on in your life a lot of the time and balancing them can be hard. As January comes round, the temptation can be to set yourself resolutions and goals (I talked a bit more about that in my first post of the year) but if they’re not in alignment with your priorities (conscious or unconscious) it will be hard to achieve them.
Last week I saw a motivational comment somewhere ending with the sentiment of ‘if I can do this then so can you, just stop making the excuses’. There are so many things that are perfectly possible but not everything is possible or achievable all of the time. And this is where your top 3 priorities come in.
When you decide on what your top 3 priorities are then you are able to decide where to focus your energies. If you set a goal outside of those top 3 priorities then you are going to have to work really b****y hard to meet it because there will be other things getting in your way. Other people might call these other things ‘excuses’ but I call them boundaries.
My top 3 priorities will probably look different from yours. That’s ok. Because I’m not you and you’re not me. I can’t, nor should I tell you what your top 3 priorities should be. But I will tell you mine, they are, in order of priority:
- Personal growth and me time
- Work / business
And that’s why, after 9 months of work, heartache, tears and laughter I decided I had to let go of my counselling diploma course. Although I wanted it and I could have done it, it wasn’t high enough up the priority list to make the sacrifices I needed to. I wasn’t willing to sacrifice my relationship with my partner or my children, I wasn’t willing to make myself ill, I wasn’t willing to give up my only way of supporting and feeding my family.
It’s also why weight loss isn’t on my list of new year goals, I don’t want it more than I want to spend time with my family or get to bed early.
I’m fed up of gurus, companies and so called experts telling you that you can have it all but you have to want it more. I’m fed up of these people dictation to you what your priorities have to look like. I say, you have to decide what it is that you want most. And whatever you decide is ok. As long as you decide it and can live with it and as long as you know that these things aren’t fixed. We can reassess our top 3 priorities at any time, in line with changes in our lives because our life is fluid.
What are your top 3 priorities right now? Do you need to change any goals in view of identifying them? Are you surprised? Let me know in the comments below.